There are pros and cons to every stage of life! I am SO thankful God sent me my "Mr. Right" in his PERFECT timing! I was 37 and a half and 5 days old when I got married. In a week we will have been married for 8 months already! Time sure flies! Here are some of the things I don't miss/do miss about being single. I had PLENTY of time to be single, so even though there are some things I miss, I am overall so much more content being married to Jonathan and having his love, support, stability and encouragement! I'm just SO glad I didn't settle just to have someone in my life! Making the changes/sacrifices it takes to be married are well worth it for the right person! Here is a picture of us which was taken on our honeymoon.
- Looking at every guy that I knew//met, who happened to be single, as a potential love interest.
- Feeling like I didn't "belong".
- Being asked if I was dating anyone (as if I wasn't ok just being me) over and over and over again.
- Feeling especially lonely, and feeling like my singleness was accentuated over the Holidays.
- Knowing that no one would know if I lived or died on my way home, since I lived alone for most of my single years, unless I didn't show up for work for a few days.
- The uncertainty of dating. (Do I or don't I plan for a future with this person?)
- Having no one to rely on consistently.
- Flying solo in a "couple's world".
- Not having companionship, oftentimes not having anyone to do stuff with.
Do Miss:
- Having the apartment all to myself so that I could have a girlfriend over to hang out/drink wine/talk without having to go anywhere. Now we meet for dinner/coffee/walking somewhere in public. Unless of course, my friend happens to be single.
- Having total control of the remote control and what I wanted to watch on TV.
- Being able to come and go as I pleased without having to let anyone know.
- Feeling like God's purpose for me was for me to minister to other singles. I know I still can, but sometimes I think singles may not be able to relate to me as much now that I'm married.
- Having more time to blog.
- Having more time to keep in touch with friends.
- Making purchases/not making purchases without having to consult anyone.
Can you relate to any of these pros & cons? Please leave your comments! I would love to hear from you! :)
6 comments:
Jen, I would say you are still ministering to singles—to this single, at least! You are such an encouragement to me, and your story also inspires me to keep praying for my own "Prince Charming."
Now to your list ... I'm fairly certain that when I marry, I'll miss every single item you listed on your "miss" list! I especially enjoy having control of my remote, my time, and my purchases. Of course, I would give those up in a heartbeat ...
I can also identify with most of the things on your "don't miss" list ... especially #1! I have perfected the wedding ring glance—and it's pretty ridiculous how I do, at least initially, look at every single male as a potential love interest.
Anyway, thanks for this post—I really enjoyed it!
Becky, Thank you so much for your encouragement! I'm so glad that my story inspires you! I know it always inspired me when I heard of people who were older than me getting married for the first time! I really appreciate your comments. If you have any blog topic requests for me, just let me know! :)
Congratulations. You look very happy together. I'm considerably older, 54, and I've been widowed for 10 1/2 years. I'm grateful for the 22 years that I had with my husband. I'm grateful for the two children I had with him.
I miss the companionship primarily. I've learned to do a lot of things by myself that were uncomfortable at first. I always carry a book of short stories in my car and read when I eat out alone. I travel alone and I sometimes feel uncomfortable but occassionally I can find other women who are traveling together and join them for activities. If I go to concerts or plays alone, I often strike up conversations with people around me.
I'm not always alone as I have many friends who join me for activities. They just have more responsibilities to work around. If no one is available, I just head out on my own.
I love it!!! I will follow your blogs now too!! I really can relate to the remote one!! Ha! Anyway, I am so glad God sent you your "Mr. Right" in His timing!! Awesome!!! You both look very happy!! So happy for you!!!
rhale, I am sorry for your loss! Thank you for commenting on my blog post! I am so proud of you for continuing to do life alone and with others! Community is a wonderful thing! God Bless you! :) Jen
Vicki, Thank you for commenting on my blog post! We are both very happy and very blessed! I can't believe our 1 year Anniversary is coming up in 38 days! :)
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